What’s the difference between talking to a therapist and talking to a friend or family member?

 

Friends and family members can offer a space to “vent” or sometimes a shoulder to cry on. While these are important, therapy offers a space to be accepted unconditionally while receiving a neutral and often fresh perspective. I am often told by clients, “I never thought of it that way before!” Indeed, in therapy you will likely gain a deeper understanding of yourself and your patterns, allowing you to create a healthy way to move forward.

 

Does therapy focus mostly on other people in my life or events of the past? 

 

Gaining understanding of how our prior experiences have impacted us can be a powerful way to gain insight and cultivate more compassion for ourselves. This is done, however, with the ultimate goal of taking full responsibility for ourselves and the circumstances of our lives in order to effect greater change. And sometimes, not a lot of time in therapy is spent talking about the past at all, but rather taking stock of what is working for us and what isn't in order to create a more satisfying life and a better future. 

 

Will I become dependent on my therapist?

 

The goal of therapy is to work together, utilizing your strengths so you can begin to create the life you want. You will learn skills in therapy that you can take with you out into the world, long after your therapy is over. Sometimes, I don't even get to see my clients achieve their final goals, because they leave therapy with the tools to make them happen on their own. 

 

How long will therapy take? 

 

This depends on a number of things, including what you are working on, how often you want to come to therapy, and what you’re willing to invest in the process. I will work with you to ensure you are working at a pace that is comfortable for you and conducive to your goals.

 

How can I make the most of my therapy?

 

First and foremost, come to scheduled appointments consistently and on time. This is your time and you deserve all of it! Secondly, know that you can be totally honest in our sessions, without shame or judgment. I am here to partner with you in compassion, not to judge you or your circumstances. Lastly, I often offer clients additional resources such as books, videos, and actionable exercises in order for them to continue their progress outside of session. I encourage you to give these a try, as they will greatly enhance your therapy.